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Being Independent
- By Shyaam Rohtak

While it's extremely important to have connections like family, friends, and significant others in your life, it's also good to feel confident doing things on your own. Independence is something we strive for: the ability to be self-sufficient and in charge of our own life.
It's important for us to feel empowered enough to procure things on our own. Why is it good to give yourself independent time once in a while?

You can take control of your own destiny. There are natural-born leaders or people who can't stand not having people follow them around. When away from them make your own rules, it's both an introspective and empowering moment because you are the sole controller of what happens. This might sound slightly anti-social, but isn't it good to feel like your own leader once in a while? You're independent - you can do it!

Roam around! It's good to be confident on your two feet. This is especially true in a big city where you have to keep your wits about you. You shouldn't be too distracted while roaming around, but you should also just enjoy the freedom and refresh yourself. If you can take public transport, drive for errands, or get coffee by yourself, it can be empowering and interesting. This can also be metaphorical - are you comfortable with yourself and making decisions for just you? It's good to have a decisive side and be able to take control of yourself without others influencing you.

Sometimes you don't notice certain things when you're with a big group, but once in a while, go through your life like a movie: sit on a bench in a park and listen to the music in your head. Relax and take everything in. Be comfortable with the silence. It's good to just be by yourself sometimes and just think.

While it makes sense when you're a child to rely on your parents for important decisions, once you become an adult, you should be able to be comfortable doing things by yourself. You don't have to have family, friends, or significant others taking care of you - if you can get a job, make your own money, and support yourself, you can be self-reliant and fabulous. Don't let yourself be taken care of - take care of yourself!

You can be anyone you want to be once you're self-reliant. Once you love yourself and prove to people that you're strong, and then you can be a good friend, family member, and/or significant other to someone else. Be independent and you take the world head on!

It's always good to take some time to relax and enjoy your time alone. If you can be self-reliant and do things on your own, figuratively and metaphorically, then you're in charge of your destiny and are a stronger person as a result. Make sure you trust yourself to take control - get out there and be a strong, independent woman!